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Being Included in the Child’s Play – Admin #11

Posted by Administrator on May 24, 2019

Today was a very sunny day so we spent a lot of time making the most of it in the garden.  One of the children Kevin, for whom English is a second language tends not to speak unless he has to.  He likes to blow bubbles and today we had a different wand for blowing bubbles.  We played side by side, me with the small bubble wand and Kevin with the long bubble wand. Kevin enjoyed the challenge of making bubbles with the big bubble wand.  At times he asked me to hold the bubble solution container and I choose to regard this as his way of asking me to participate in his activity.  When the bubble solution ran low I asked Kevin if he wanted more to which he replied “yes”.  In hindsight I should have asked him an open question to encourage conversation, something like “what should we do?” or “how can we get more bubbles?” My life seems to be full of ‘if onlys’!

At one point Kevin spotted a pair of pink princess sunglasses which were just out of his reach.  Kevin didn’t directly ask for them but he pointed to them and said “those”.  I asked him if he wanted the sunglasses and he said “yes”.  I got them and I said “thank you” as I gave them to him.  It may seem a little odd to say thank you when you’re giving something to someone but it was out of my mouth before I knew I had said it. A throwback to my days of trying to instill manners in my own children.  I think I said it to prompt Kevin to say it back to me or to alert him to the response he should give when someone gives him something.  If that was the case then I should have been clearer and said “when someone gives you something it’s nice to say ‘thank you’” and left the rest up to him (another ‘if only’).

Kevin wanted me to put the sunglasses on; I said “no” and explained that I couldn’t because I already had glasses on.  Why I said that is beyond me. I could have taken off my glasses and put on the princess glasses. I think I refused because without my glasses I can’t see very well or at all but that’s a flimsy excuse.

Kevin put on the glasses and then took them off, pointed to the princess on the side of the glasses frame and said they were for girls.  K put the glasses on again but this time put them on upside down;

Me: “it looks like you have a moustache (smiling).  Do you want me to take your photo so you can see what they look like on you?”

Kevin: “yes”

He gave a big beautiful smile while I took the photo. I showed him the photo.

Kevin, pointing at the symbol (heart) in the middle of the glasses on the bridge of his nose said, “it’s magic!”

Me: “what does it do?”

I didn’t understand what he said it did but I pressed it and he took the glasses off so maybe the heart symbol was like an eject button. More importantly Kevin seemed to be happy with my action because he took the glasses and gave them to one of his peers and they both played with them.  I was forgotten about as the play moved on.  It was a brief inclusion into the world of the child; for a few minutes I had been a playmate; I felt honoured and hungry for more.


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